I blog monthly for a ministry called HeartSupport that helps people who struggle with all kinds of addictions. Here’s a post I wrote back in August for HeartSupport. Pass it along if you know someone struggling with lust or porn…


Life is short. Have an affair.

That’s the slogan of an organization who aids married people in having an affair. The website was created years ago when its creator found out that 30-35% of people with profiles on dating websites designed for singles were actually married people looking to have an affair. They argue that they don’t encourage cheating, they just provide a way to meet “unmet needs.” There’s obviously a need for love considering that on the Monday after Mother’s Day, over 30,000 new female profiles were added. Over 18,000 males added their profiles to the site on the day after Father’s Day this year. Why? Probably because they were disappointed with how they got treated on Mother’s/Father’s Day. They wanted something more.

That’s the world we live in. People are obsessed with trying to find satisfaction and pleasure in all the wrong places.

God addressed the problem in Jeremiah 2:13

For My people have committed two evils: They have forsaken Me, the fountain of living waters, and hewn themselves cisterns—broken cisterns that can hold no water.

A modern-day example of that would be paying for a fountain drink at a restaurant and receiving a cup with a big slit in the bottom. No matter how often you go back for a refill, every time you take it back to your table, it will leak everywhere – it’s incapable of holding liquid.

Just like that broken cup, our attempts at finding pleasure and satisfaction apart from Christ are also broken and pointless. It’s just going to get messy. Your pursuits in the world are ultimately incapable of holding pleasure. The little that they do hold will leak out quickly leaving you empty again.

The picture that God paints in Scripture is that finding pleasure from anyone or anything other Him is like having an affair – it’s cheating on God (read the book of Hosea). He loves, supports, and provides unconditionally, yet many people feel the urge for more and they go running off with that thing or that person.

We live in a world whose slogan is “Life is short. Have an affair.” In other words, “Life is short. Do what feels good.” Don’t buy the lie. It will get messy.

Lust is a lie.

Envy is empty.

Porn is poison.

Fame is fleeting.

Don’t buy the lies that the world offers. Jesus offers life. He’s the only source.


I’m a pastor; and I use my past with porn to help others put porn in their past.