This is my latest blog for the HeartSupport website. Read it on HeartSupport’s site HERE.


A lot of people think that God makes rules because He’s God and He can.

If God were on Facebook, most people think His hobbies would be: making up rules, striking people with lightning, and generally making people’s lives miserable.

That’s not reality.

For example, I choose to not let my 3-year old run around the house with a knife. I don’t enforce that rule because I’m mean or I enjoy taking things away from my daughter. I enforce that rule because I have her best in mind. I know what could happen if I let her do that.

In Deuteronomy 17, God sets up some rules for future kings of Israel. He knows if the kings follow the rules He sets up, they will succeed – their lives and their kingdoms will prosper.

Deuteronomy 17:7 – The king must not take many wives for himself, because they will turn his heart away from the Lord...

That’s pretty clear, right? He knows the consequences of lusting after women. He knows that if the king takes multiple wives, he won’t last long in his quest to serve the Lord. Unfortunately, not everyone listened. Look at what Solomon did…

1 Kings 11:3 – [Solomon] had 700 wives of royal birth and 300 concubines…

Back in the day, marrying 2 wives was normal. Some guys even married 3 or 4. Solomon wasn’t ok with just 1 or 2 or 17 or 328 or 699 – he married 700 women and had 300 concubines (women on hand available for sexual favors whenever the king desired). Basically, the king could sleep with a different woman every night for almost 3 years and not sleep with the same woman twice. To many men, Solomon seems to have been living the dream. I’m sure Solomon loved it!

But here’s the end of 1 Kings 11:3…

…And in fact, they did turn his heart away from the Lord.

In other words, this was a perfect chance for God to say, “I told you so!”

One perk to being God is knowing the future. So when He says not to do something because the consequences will be bad, He knows what He’s talking about. Like for instance when He says, “God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin,” (1 Thessalonians 4:3), He says that for a reason. He knows that there will be consequences.

Here’s the bottom line: God said to stay away from sexual sin. Don’t do it. You’ll regret it.

The concept is easy, the application is challenging. XXXChurch is one of many ways to help you cure your addiction to porn or sexual sin. Set up accountability, battle the sin that you struggle with, and steer clear of temptation and weak areas at all costs. Obedience is always worth the sacrifice.


My name is Kevin Miller. I’m a pastor; and I use my past with porn to help others put porn in their past.