Since it’s the Christmas season and I like to give, I thought I’d give you the gift of hearing from some good friends of mine throughout the month of December. Beginning today, you’ll be hearing from some very special guests as they share insightful thoughts from their own hearts.

We’re kicking it off with a good friend of mine, Jason Roy, Lead Singer of Building 429. Jason has become one of my closest friends and we have had the opportunity to do some ministry together on tour around the U.S. I know you’ll enjoy what he shares like I did…



Several days ago I was up early when I got a call from a friend who I’ve worked with for some time.  He told me that he was in a business relationship that wasn’t working out the way he had hoped, and that he needed prayer because he was about to be in a pretty stressful conversation about the future of the business they had started together.  I, like many of you, had been reading Kevin’s book (Better than Gold) and working through Proverbs this month and had just read something that jumped off the page at me. So I immediately flipped my Youversion app open and shared this scripture.

WHAT YOUR EYES HAVE SEEN DO NOT HASTILY BRING INTO COURT, FOR WHAT WILL YOU DO IN THE END WHEN YOUR NEIGHBOR PUTS YOU TO SHAME? Argue your case with your neighbor himself and do not reveal another’s secret, lest he who hears you bring shame upon you, and your ill repute have no end.  A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver.  Like a gold ring or an ornament of gold is a wise reprover to a listening ear.

Proverbs 25:8-12

I shared that thought, and prayed for him and went on about my day.  About half way through the day it hit me like a baseball bat to the head this Proverb wasn’t just for him it was a reminder for me as well.

You see I’ve always believed that conflict is an opportunity in disguise. I also think that people behaving foolishly in conflicts are what make them so destructive. Some of the greatest stories of the Lord’s provision and grace have come through incredibly challenging conflicts in my life… mostly because I’ve watched great leaders exemplify what a good conflict strategy can look like. My personal plan in any conflict is this: Investment with Truth.  I have to make the other person understand that I love them, and that I care about their well being.  Once that is an openly established fact, bringing hard truth to the table gets much easier. Investment without truth gets you nowhere, truth without investment… again nowhere. But together….. now we’re cooking.

Today may find you a parent, a business owner, a pastor, a friend, a teacher, or even truly on trial waiting on your opportunity to share the truth.  In each of these cases might this short devotion remind you that this is not a fight you have to try to win. Exodus 14:14 “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still”.

Brothers and sisters, in a world filled with loud proclamations of self-worth, righteousness, and arrogance, may you and I be wise with the words we choose.  May we desire relationship over rightness, conversations over statements, and grace over condemnation.  May we choose our words wisely, and show  restraint while waiting for the right moment to share the wisdom the Lord has blessed us with.  


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